
The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships is a book by Dr. John Gottman that introduces the concept of 'bids' for connection. It explains how small interactions—like a look, a touch, or a comment—are actually requests for attention and how responding to these bids determines the health of a relationship. The book provides a practical program based on decades of research to help individuals improve their emotional intelligence and build stronger bonds through better communication and attunement to their partner's needs.
it's supportiveness, but supportive in a way that isn't like, oh, like you're a supportive friend... I want you as a partner to be exceptionally attuned
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"The guest discusses 'diadic stuff' and how partners respond to each other's bad days or good news. This is the core research area of John Gottman, whose work on 'bids for connection' and 'attunement' is the scientific basis for the supportiveness and responsiveness described in the conversation."