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The Rise of 'Gray Divorce'
Analysis of why divorce rates are skyrocketing for people over 50 while plummeting for younger generations.
The Power of the Pre-emptive Apology to Disarm Conflict
James shares a professional 'trade secret' on how to instantly calm a combative person by using humility and taking unearned blame to reset the tone.
Don't Let the Government Pick Your Numbers
A compelling argument for prenups based on the reality that legal formulas are arbitrary and that couples should control their own destiny.
Why You Might Need a 'Petnup'
An explanation of 'petnups' and why couples should establish rules for their pets before a relationship ends, given that the law often treats animals as property.
The M&M Theory of Marriage: Yours, Mine, and Ours
Using M&Ms as a visual aid, Sexton explains the 'tranches' of property in a marriage and how co-mingling creates legal chaos.
A Trial Lawyer's Secret to Healthy Relationships
James Sexton explains how the 'manipulation' skills used by trial lawyers to manage emotions in court can and should be used ethically to maintain connection in relationships.
Dating is Just a Job Interview
A compelling metaphor comparing the dating process to seeking and maintaining a career, highlighting why we stop trying after 'getting the job'.
The DMV Rule: Why You Should Write Your Own Prenup
Sexton uses a humorous but logical argument about why trusting your partner to write a prenup is better than trusting the state government.
Why Women Divorce 'Great Providers'
Explains the 'slippage' in rankings that leads women to leave successful, high-achieving partners despite their financial stability.
The Courtroom vs. The Living Room: A Divorce Lawyer's Realization
James Sexton shares a profound insight from his ex-wife about being successful in a professional environment while being emotionally paralyzed at home.
Rom-Coms are Emotional Pornography
A provocative take on how romantic films distort our perception of real-world relationships and create unrealistic expectations.
The 3-and-3 Weekly Relationship Ritual
A simple but powerful weekly exercise to maintain emotional intimacy and address friction before it builds up.
The Greatest Gift in a Marriage
A moving description of the ultimate goal of a lifelong commitment: helping a partner become their most authentic self.
The Relationship Menu: Giving Your Partner What They Actually Need
James Sexton introduces a brilliant communication framework called 'The Menu' to help partners identify if they need listening, solutions, or distraction in the moment.
The Fundamental Fear: Why We Are Terrified of Real Intimacy
A deep dive into the core human fear that being truly known will lead to being unloved, and how this prevents relationship maintenance.
Why Being Scared of a Prenup is the Biggest Red Flag
A sharp piece of advice explaining that if you are afraid to discuss a prenup, you are actually afraid of hard conversations, which are essential for marriage.
The Two Most Dangerous Assumptions in Marriage
James Sexton breaks down the two contradictory and harmful beliefs people hold when entering marriage: that the union will change their partner, or that nothing will change at all.
The Greatest Gift in Marriage: Authenticity
James Sexton discusses how the ultimate goal of a partnership is to help each other become the most authentic version of themselves.
Work as a Narcotic: The Best Definition of Addiction
James Sexton discusses how high achievers use work to avoid feeling painful emotions, redefining addiction in a way that applies to many professionals.
The Potato Chip Analogy of Cheating
A relatable and humorous comparison between the lack of discipline in dieting and the failure to avoid infidelity.
Living Your Gag Reel vs. Watching Everyone's Greatest Hits
A powerful metaphor for the modern struggle with social media and the fear of being honest about personal struggles.
The 5-Minute Weekly Ritual to Save Your Marriage
A simple, systematic approach to keeping love alive by sharing specific appreciations and moments of feeling loved once a week.