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The Power of 'Unclenching' in a Chaotic World
Oliver discusses the concept of 'aliveness' and how the modern tendency to 'clench' or grasp for control prevents us from actually experiencing a meaningful life.
Redefining the Midlife Crisis
Oliver Burkeman provides a respectable psychological definition of the midlife crisis, framing it as a necessary shift from establishing oneself to understanding life.
Why Relinquishing Control Actually Increases Your Agency
A counterintuitive take on how the obsession with controlling outcomes actually makes a person more fragile and less powerful.
The Toxic Fantasy of the 'Best Life'
Oliver Burkeman explains why the concept of a 'best life' or 'maximizing potential' is a fantasy that creates an endless cycle of dissatisfaction.
Advice Hyperresponders: Why the Wrong People Take Advice
A discussion on why advice often reaches the wrong audience: those who need to relax work harder, and those who need to work harder ignore the message.
The Myth of 'Clearing the Decks'
An essential reminder that life's duties will never be fully finished, so you must start doing what you care about immediately.
Frankle's Inverse Law: Why We Replace Joy With Meaning
A profound insight into why overachievers prioritize hard tasks and 'meaning' over simple joy and happiness because they find the latter harder to access.
The Crab Shell Metaphor for Personal Growth
A powerful metaphor about the 'chasm of incongruence' and why trying to fit back into an old version of yourself during a transition is a recipe for misery.
Why 'Settling' is Actually Inevitable
Burkeman challenges the modern obsession with maximizing choices, arguing that 'settling' is simply the reality of being a finite human being.
The Need for a Parasympathetic David Goggins
A humorous but deep look at 'Type B problems' for overachievers who don't know how to relax and why society offers them no sympathy.